We’ve instituted a new rule in my house, or at least we will after I’ve sent out this newsletter. The rule: you don’t get to complain about something when you chose the shittier path after having the option of choosing the less shitty path (and continuing to take the shitty choice). Make sense?
Let me paint a quick picture for you, and I’ll even put it into meme form, because memes are high art.
Imagine having two options for dinner: your favorite food or a pile of shit. You choose the pile of shit and then complain that it’s a pile of shit and that you’d rather have your favorite food. Meanwhile, the folks around you are like, “You can still eat your favorite food. It’s right there. It’s not too late.” And you still choose the pile of shit anyway. Now look at this fucking meme:
Why do we do this to ourselves?
Anyway, I’m instituting that rule where you don’t get to complain about something you have the power to change. The problem, from what I can see, is that choosing the thing you really want is uncomfortable.
You’d rather deal with the discomfort of living with a situation you hate than face the discomfort of changing it.
We’ve all done this, and I’m suggesting we knock it off. Because in the long run, you’re going to experience more discomfort in your life by choosing to stay in the shitty situation. Now take a look at this sweet, super genius graph I made:
Changing the situation appears to be greater discomfort than remaining stuck inside the situation. But that’s all it is. It’s imaginary. A hypothesis. And it’s wrong anyways. Why? Because facing the situation and fixing it requires a finite amount of discomfort. Once you’re doing what you really want to do, the discomfort is over and done. Staying in the shitty situation, however, prolongs the discomfort you feel from being stuck.
Choosing to not make a change makes your misery add up over time, for as long as you choose to remain stuck. And the longer you stay there, the more discomfort you will feel overall. It a long period of misery, verses a shorter moment of misery if you choose to face the discomfort of fixing your problem.
It’s your life, you know. It doesn’t make sense to lock yourself into an uncomfortable situation if you have the option of making your life better. Choose to have that difficult conversation. Choose to take the temporary hard path to give yourself an easier one later on, instead of choosing the easier path now to have the longer, more difficult one later. Choose to eat your favorite food instead of the pile of shit.
-Janden
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